Ageing and Sexual Health(Sexual Health)

                                    Ageing and Sexual Health

Lots of men come to me with a coyish look  and  ask ” Though I am 45 now but still I thought there must be some years left to enjoy my sex life” !!


Too many misconceptions exist regarding the age till one should have sex . These beliefs get reinforced by the commonly found reduction in sex desire with the passage of time in a couple. Does it mean that men tend to have lesser desire as they age? The answer is “NO” .

It is only the instant desire for your partner that goes down with time , the one present when you were in 20’s . It is probably due to habituation , a phenomena of reduced response of pleasure and arousal with the same stimulus over a period of time. People get more arousal with newer stimuli so chances of extra marital relationships increase . Surely the desire doesn’t go down as such .


What actually happens is that response of body to sexual cues change . You can enjoy sex as much as you wish and till any age as you can keep yourself physically and mentally fit. Of course you need to have a equally responsive and physically fit partner as well .


It is a very important to understand these changes because a large number of couples suffer in silence in the four walls of their bedroom  , many of them develop anxiety, frustration or negative self esteem . NO WONDER Many couples coming to me describe their relationships like a brother and sister over the last few years.


Changes in desire– Frequency of sex is maximum in the initial 6 months to 2 years of marriage. It starts declining after that . Some of the decline is due to nitty and gritty of every day life , plans  to extend the family , financial burden and family burdens . Sex no longer occupy the privileged place in the list of everyday priorities, rather is pushed to the last chore to be done after everything else is finished . so people find that they no longer feel that passion for sex . You can’t have passionate feelings for something you don’t value. so the possible reason for perceived reduction in sex desire is due to misplaced priorities, not the real numbers .


In fact a lot of people have increased desire due to a release phenomena. Many rate sex after age 40 as the best of their lives .
Sounds crazy!!!!!! But it is a fact . Getting rid of worries of settling kids, stable finance and no worries for pregnancy can make women enjoy sex of lifetime after 50 . There are factors other than ageing alone who can kill desire like stress, low testosterone, high prolactin or some medicines causing side effects.


Effects on Arousal – Arousal is the process of preparing for sexual inter course
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